This is the title of a book I haven’t read, but fully assume I would love….because I instantly adore the title. It resonates with me completely.
I love being an actress….but I sometimes hesitate to say I’m an actress. It often opens up a somewhat awkward situation. If the person I’m talking to doesn’t already know my work then I am usually asked to run down a list of some of my most popular projects and they may not have seen any of them, or worse don’t remember me… and it just sort of bites – and is awkward and anticlimactic for all involved. Many people are instantly charmed by the idea of meeting someone ‘famous’ (to whatever degree) but that can quickly turn to disappointment if you haven’t worked on their favorite show or are unwilling to spill any gossip. But the bigger reason I often refrain from chatting up my profession is that if people aren’t already familiar with your work they think either ‘oh, she’s a wannabe actress’ – Cue the old joke:
or many people hear the word actress and they picture this:
or (insert tabloid cover of some wannabe starlets life mid-meltdown, here: _______________).
And its true those “actresses” exist…..but I’m happy to report that I don’t really know any of these women… and it makes my skin crawl to think of being potentially perceived that way. That is not who I am drawn to or who I draw to me. And doesn’t represent my LA experience at all. Though I know those ‘actresses’ exists – probably in the tens of thousands in LA, truthfully, I have almost no experience with these women. I hate being lumped into that category…and until you ‘make it big’ there is always a segment of the population that may choose to see you this way.
Who I do know…. are fiercely talented, creative, inspiring women that bring it! Some are famous, some have been famous, some are on the upswing and some coming back down, some just digging in their heels, trying to get established….but they are all driven, determined and focused on the prize…which is the work. They force me to get up and be creative and get stuff done…because that’s what they are doing.
They aren’t slyly marketing a sex tape or dating some disaster in the calculated risk that the benefits would out-weigh the horror of such a decision. No, they are writing films, creating shows, putting on plays, directing their own projects, and thinking outside of the box. They are doing what has to be done to continue to pursue their art and passion. They are COORDINATING with each other instead of attempting to step on each other.
And I Love that. Love with a capitol L and in bold and underlined. I don’t want to ‘win’ in this career by being good at something where most people are lazy or boring or predictable. No. I want to excel in a field where the cream is rising to the top and we are all putting out our best – pushing each other to be more innovative, passionate, focused and brazen in our willingness to do it ourselves if the opportunities aren’t being given to us. To be more than we even thought possible. Each day, to be better and stronger and braver than we were the day before.
When I think of an actress, I think of this:
or (insert Oscar winning, humanitarian, philanthropic, witty creative genius here_______________) and it makes me dizzy with the esteemed company I keep within my chosen field.
I strive to be a Hepburn (or a Garbo, Baker, Lupino, Kelly, Hayworth, Horne, Maclaine, Davis, Loy, Colbert, Leigh, Taylor, Pickford, Dandridge, etc…you get my drift)….. constantly aiming for that level of grace and class, talent and PRESENCE.
They say luck is opportunity meeting preparedness. Without a doubt the ladies in my circle are prepared…here’s hoping many delicious opportunities to shine are just around the corner for all of us.